Dream dream dream dream dream

[oursin]

I find it odd the people from one's life who feature in dreams, whether in good or bad contexts, and whether it Means Anything.

(Those dreams in which I am back at school/university seldom if ever feature anyone who was there at the time, though I suppose part of the disturbing nature of those dreams is that it's me now then.)

I have occasional dreams about Q, and they are very much about now and the existence of that painful rupture, but sometimes they are about anger and sometimes they are about some kind of tentative rapprochement (e.g. the one I had last night, whence these thoughts).

But there are other people who don't seem to get dreamt about, and others who do.

It just slightly annoys me that there is still something, some emotional tie, that means Q is still this occasional part of my dream life.

I'm not sure the friendship would have endured, even absent the circumstances in which it broke, and I think I've moved in certain directions (that I consider A Good Thing) that I might not have if it had survived.

Comments

[boxofdelights]

I had a dream last night about the person who was my friend for thirty years until I suddenly turned into an obstacle between her and her One True Love. In the dream I felt both loving and exasperated, and more worried about the harm she might come to than the harm she might cause.

Looking back on it, I think it was telling me that I still haven't learned not to cooperate with someone who is abusing me even if I love them.

I don't think dreams always have something important to tell us, but do you think this one might?

[oursin]

I am inclined to attribute it to a friendship crisis happening elsewhere in my circles, which has been a bit restimulating generally about broken friendship. But there may well be more to it.

[bibliofile]

Yes.

I think of dreams sort of as my brain mumbling to itself, assembling vids from existing material. What a given dream means is always an open question.