I'm not sure if this is even a thing, or an urban myth

[oursin]

On another paw, we have historically-attested evidence that people in The Past did it, though not quite for the same reasons...

'Soaking', which is allegedly something that young Mormons do so that they can have sex but not actual sex that they'd have to admit to? (Okay, am not entirely up in the spiritual practices of the LDS.)

Anyway, what it is, (apparently) is, intromission without any movement, no thrusting, no orgasm, etc, and, it seems, it does not violate the young woman's status as a virgin? (No, I don't even.)

Well, I have come across this practice before but predominantly in the context of C19th married sex with not wanting to have too many baybeez/weird religious cult territory.

Alice Stockham, author of Tokology (1883) a general guide to women's health, parturition, infant care, and dietetics, also wrote a book on Karezza (1896), which advocates sexual union without ejaculation as a form of spiritual couple bonding as well as promoting health.

She had picked up this idea from John Humphrey Noyes of the Oneida Community, in which a form of 'male continence' was an essential element in the 'complex marriage' system within their community, although it was actually taught to the young men, they weren't expected just to go ahead and do it, there was an assumption that it required practice. It also allegedly paid off in multiple orgasms for the women.

In Aldous Huxley's final novel Island (1962) the practice was identified with a similar yogic one.

However, as far as I can tell from such descriptions of 'soaking' as I can find, there is no indication either that it produces extreme ecstasy for the female partner, or a mystical experience for either/both.

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[silveradept]

The thing I mostly took away from the interest in such things was "if your religious system is so notorious for their young people trying to find ways around having sex according to strictly defined rules, perhaps you should rethink your rules about sex so that so much effort is not wasted in trying to skirt them."